Friday, June 25, 2010
Friday, June 18, 2010
Sister Love
An older sister is a friend and defender - a listener, conspirator, a counsellor and a sharer of delights. - Pam Brown
Sisters. Life keeps trying to pull us apart. School, work, boyfriends, family, and everything else eats up sister time. Lately Ive been thinking about how little time I get to spend with my sister. I was in SF trying to explain how Risa was doing in School, what her plans were, her goals. And you know what? I didnt really know anymore. It made me very sad. I love my sister so so so so much. I would do anything for her. So, I have decided that I need to set aside sister time. Time away from school. Away from work. Away from family. Away from everything. Just us sisters hanging out.
My soul needs sister time.
Sisters. Life keeps trying to pull us apart. School, work, boyfriends, family, and everything else eats up sister time. Lately Ive been thinking about how little time I get to spend with my sister. I was in SF trying to explain how Risa was doing in School, what her plans were, her goals. And you know what? I didnt really know anymore. It made me very sad. I love my sister so so so so much. I would do anything for her. So, I have decided that I need to set aside sister time. Time away from school. Away from work. Away from family. Away from everything. Just us sisters hanging out.
My soul needs sister time.
Monday, June 14, 2010
Why me?
Proximity, Similarity and Physical Attractiveness. Or at least that's why my intro into psychology book tells me.
Proximity - "The more proximity, geographical closeness, we have to someone in our daily lives, there more exposure we have to them, and the more we tend to like them."
Similarity - "When choosing a partner, we tend to gravitate to people who are of similar age, socioeconomic status, education, intelligence, race, religion, attitudes, power, and physical attractiveness.We tend to like those who are similar to us, and liking leads to attraction."
Physical Attractiveness - "When choosing a potential partner, physical attractiveness seems to be important to both men and women, but men seem to place particular emphasis on how attractive their potential partners are. Women on the other hand, place more importance on the psychological traits of their potential partners. So it seems that although physical attractiveness is important to women, it is not the most important aspect of a partner. Female or male, we tend to be romantically involved with people whose level of physical attractiveness is comparable to our own. This is a tendency called the matching hypothesis."
The last one is incredible to me. We like people who are just about as attractive as we are. Now stop. Think about your friends... That is about how good looking you are. (take this with a grain of salt, these aren't hard facts)Interesting no? Made me think about my own relationship.
I must be pretty darn cute if this matching hypothesis is true.
Proximity - "The more proximity, geographical closeness, we have to someone in our daily lives, there more exposure we have to them, and the more we tend to like them."
Similarity - "When choosing a partner, we tend to gravitate to people who are of similar age, socioeconomic status, education, intelligence, race, religion, attitudes, power, and physical attractiveness.We tend to like those who are similar to us, and liking leads to attraction."
Physical Attractiveness - "When choosing a potential partner, physical attractiveness seems to be important to both men and women, but men seem to place particular emphasis on how attractive their potential partners are. Women on the other hand, place more importance on the psychological traits of their potential partners. So it seems that although physical attractiveness is important to women, it is not the most important aspect of a partner. Female or male, we tend to be romantically involved with people whose level of physical attractiveness is comparable to our own. This is a tendency called the matching hypothesis."
The last one is incredible to me. We like people who are just about as attractive as we are. Now stop. Think about your friends... That is about how good looking you are. (take this with a grain of salt, these aren't hard facts)Interesting no? Made me think about my own relationship.
I must be pretty darn cute if this matching hypothesis is true.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
So Weird
Robert Fulghum - "When we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness -- and call it love -- true love."
May we be weird forever then. For it brings me great joy.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Friday Fun
* Graduation - Finally graduated from high school. I was so eady to be done. Now I can jump into the real world of college and work. Woo Whoo! I got the David Gadd Scholarship for $500. That was happy. Now I'll have money to spend on books.
* Met Chad's family - I was so scared to meet all the cousins and aunts and uncles and everyone! What if they didn't like me? What if I said something dumb again? What if? What if? However it turned out fine. It was still a bit awkward, but by far not as bad as I thought it was going to be. And now Ive met the fam! It can only go up hill from here.
* After Party - I had an awesome after party at my house My amazing mother was the best host ever. Everyone loved her. We sat around drinking apple cider and playing Apples to Apples. We also watched the movie 21, and some of the Office. Then almost everyone went to sleep. It was a wonderful night.
So that was my Friday fun!
* Met Chad's family - I was so scared to meet all the cousins and aunts and uncles and everyone! What if they didn't like me? What if I said something dumb again? What if? What if? However it turned out fine. It was still a bit awkward, but by far not as bad as I thought it was going to be. And now Ive met the fam! It can only go up hill from here.
* After Party - I had an awesome after party at my house My amazing mother was the best host ever. Everyone loved her. We sat around drinking apple cider and playing Apples to Apples. We also watched the movie 21, and some of the Office. Then almost everyone went to sleep. It was a wonderful night.
So that was my Friday fun!
Friday, May 14, 2010
Right and Wrong
Jeffrey Goines once said,
“There is no such thing as right and wrong, there's just popular opinion.”
I disagree. We all know some things are very black and white. Right and wrong. To kill another person is wrong. To feed a starving child is right. But what about the things that are in the gray area? The classic example used: Is it wrong for a man to steal to feed his dying family? In a hypothetical world I would say, yes it would be wrong. But when in the real world you see his skeleton wife beast feeding a tiny sick baby. His other hungry children wallowing in the dirt. What then?
Why do some people see things as wrong, which others would see as right? How do we know who is correct? I think the only way to know is to be in touch with your heart. And as long as your heat is in touch with God, you will know.
Where this breaks down is for those of us who aren't in touch with our hearts. I struggle with feelings. I have to work hard to know what I'm feeling and why. Emotions are weird things. Emotions of hurt, happiness, love, anger, confusion, distress, neediness, joy, anticipation, and sadness. I think I let my emotions get the best of me without even knowing I'm having said emotions. I love using the example of Newtons law of motion. For every action, there is a reaction. Many times I react without being able to identify and analyze the original action (or emotion). Lately I've been feeling ugly. I just don't feel beautiful, or pretty. Unnamed persons have told me I need to do such and such if I want to be beautiful. That I need to be skinnier, and more fit. Without recognizing my hurt from these comments I set out to prove to myself I was good enough. I chose a reaction without knowing the reason for it. I devised a way in which I would be seen as beautiful. However, even this backfired on me. And now I see even more then ever, how important it is to be in touch with your heart. If I had been able to identify my feelings of hurt and rejection I might have been able to chose a more appropriate reaction. I hope with time I will be able to get in touch with my heart so I can see an action before making a rash reaction.
“There is no such thing as right and wrong, there's just popular opinion.”
I disagree. We all know some things are very black and white. Right and wrong. To kill another person is wrong. To feed a starving child is right. But what about the things that are in the gray area? The classic example used: Is it wrong for a man to steal to feed his dying family? In a hypothetical world I would say, yes it would be wrong. But when in the real world you see his skeleton wife beast feeding a tiny sick baby. His other hungry children wallowing in the dirt. What then?
Why do some people see things as wrong, which others would see as right? How do we know who is correct? I think the only way to know is to be in touch with your heart. And as long as your heat is in touch with God, you will know.
Where this breaks down is for those of us who aren't in touch with our hearts. I struggle with feelings. I have to work hard to know what I'm feeling and why. Emotions are weird things. Emotions of hurt, happiness, love, anger, confusion, distress, neediness, joy, anticipation, and sadness. I think I let my emotions get the best of me without even knowing I'm having said emotions. I love using the example of Newtons law of motion. For every action, there is a reaction. Many times I react without being able to identify and analyze the original action (or emotion). Lately I've been feeling ugly. I just don't feel beautiful, or pretty. Unnamed persons have told me I need to do such and such if I want to be beautiful. That I need to be skinnier, and more fit. Without recognizing my hurt from these comments I set out to prove to myself I was good enough. I chose a reaction without knowing the reason for it. I devised a way in which I would be seen as beautiful. However, even this backfired on me. And now I see even more then ever, how important it is to be in touch with your heart. If I had been able to identify my feelings of hurt and rejection I might have been able to chose a more appropriate reaction. I hope with time I will be able to get in touch with my heart so I can see an action before making a rash reaction.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
El Fin
The End.
School is coming to an end. Only ten days of High School remain. Im ready to move on. To start life, to start an adventure. Im ready.
Today was the last class before finals. On Tuesday I have my Geology Final, and on Wednesday I have my Spanish Final.
The dizzy spin of High School is coming to an end. The whirlwind of college is about to begin.
School is coming to an end. Only ten days of High School remain. Im ready to move on. To start life, to start an adventure. Im ready.
Today was the last class before finals. On Tuesday I have my Geology Final, and on Wednesday I have my Spanish Final.
The dizzy spin of High School is coming to an end. The whirlwind of college is about to begin.
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